Secrets For Late Bloomers: 

How To Know If You Are A Late Bloomer And
What To Do About It

By Dr. Jan Hoistad

Do you resonate with any of these statements?

• You look around and feel that everyone around you knows what they want and is going somewhere. They seem to have the perfect job, perfect relationship; they’re living “The Dream” while you’re still trying to figure it out.
• You have ideas but you’re not sure they are good enough to bother carrying out.
• You don’t get encouragement or support for your dreams or ideas—and maybe some well-meaning (and some mean) people even try to discourage you.
• You’ve started quite a few new ideas or projects but nothing has come to fruition, so you don’t trust yourself.
• You feel like a yo-yo with moments of clarity and enthusiasm followed by huge self-doubts and stagnation.
• You’re tired of always going through a “transition”—you’d really like to “transform” yourself, what you do and maybe even your relationships.
• You know what you’d like, but you’re not sure of the steps to take to make the change a reality.

Well, my dear, you just might be a late bloomer. Take hope and take heart! I want to share some important thoughts and tips to move you onto a new path.

Over the years I’ve worked with lots of unique individuals and couples who have struggled to create fulfilling, satisfying work and relationships. I’ve identified one particular dilemma.       [READ FULL ARTICLE]

 

5 Tips To Remove The KINKS From Your Energy Flow

By Dr. Jan Hoistad

Like water through a garden hose, passion is the energy you bring to your life; it’s the energy you allow to flow through your life.

Full blown life energy involves all of you—your body, mind and spirit—your thoughts, feelings, experiences, desires and even your fears, cautions and doubts.

That’s because when you are connected to your passions, anxiety can be transformed into focused energy, stress becomes challenge, and fears or self-doubts are experienced as excitement.

Since each day can feel better with your life force flowing fully, here are five questions that can take the KINKS out of your garden hose.

They just might increase your passion energy flow!

Jot your answers down so you can refer to them when you feel all kinked-up:

K         Kindness toward others:

Identify ways you get outside yourself that are energizing. When you think of others and give to others—but don’t give yourself away, lose yourself or become drained of your own energy. These are action and activities that GIVE you energy.    [READ FULL ARTICLE]

 

How To Be A Dog: Three Tips to Wag Your Tail and Increase Your Happy State

By Dr. Jan Hoistad

Let me ask you a question.

What’s happening when you feel really good, when you’re feeling contented—maybe even happy? Maybe you’re at peace with yourself and the world? Your relationships have a little sparkle?

Do you ever wish you could capture or bottle that feeling?

Well, let me share a secret with you. You can. It’s like training your dog, but more on that later!

It’s important to capture the moments that make you truly happy and the things that fulfill you—because these simple passions ultimately inform and give your life purpose, they clarify your choices and then they focus your energy into fulfilling actions.

Now, this learning doesn’t happen overnight. And I can’t send it to you in a bottle, though you may wish it were that simple! But a fulfilled, happy or passionate life is one you can train and grow into.

Here’s something to notice: If you’re like most folks, you’re able to list how you feel when life is good or not so good. And if you’re like most people, you to may focus on the negative. “Ah well, life’s not so good… or things are not so good right now… and this is how it is…” you might notice yourself saying, as though you have no part in it, no control over your experience, or as though you’re waiting for the negative to pass.    [READ FULL ARTICLE]

 

How Do You Rank Yourself: Are You Stuck In Half-A-Life Or Reaching For Pure Gold?

There’s a phenomena I’m calling out. Before I explain, let me start by asking you a simple question:

On a scale from 0 – 100% quickly pick the number, the percentage that represents how much you are living your Big Full Life—right now. (0% is “I’m not living my Big Full Life Vision at all” and 100% is “ Jan, I’m living my Big Full Life Vision FULL OUT and loving it!)

Now this is not a commonly asked question, is it?

So when I pose the question, many people look at their rating and are dismayed. Some are even horrified. You are not alone if you scored between 55–75 or 80%. But it is a wake-up call.  You might ask yourself: “What am I doing with my life?” “Who’s in charge of my life anyway?”

So I want to call out this phenomena and let you know you do not have to suffer this syndrome any more!

I’m calling it the “Half-Life Syndrome.” It’s about living only half-a-life. It may be getting in the way of you reaching what you really want—your Big Picture Life.     [READ FULL ARTICLE]

 

Do You Make Time To Talk?

I am continually surprised by the variation in the amount of time couples spend talking to each other. Some couples barely see each other during the week. Taking an extra five minutes a day to talk is perceived as a stressful added burden. Other couples say they talk frequently, maybe phoning three or four times from the office, chatting as they organize their day in the morning and again at lunchtime—and then spending time together or with their family in the evening. With some couples both partners work from home, giving them continuous opportunity for interaction.  

Through my research, I’ve seen that the amount of time partners talk—the actual number of minutes or hours—does not always translate into quality of conversation or liveliness of the interchange. Even when couples chat a lot during the day about mundane things—the weekly schedule, what to have for supper, and Suzy’s snuffly nose—it does not mean that they are discussing anything meaningful to either of them such as their desires, longings, or dreams. Even everyday things that are important to each of them as individuals, such as a stress at the office, a unique experience, or a simple need for attention, may go unshared when couples have busy schedules, and especially if they have young children. It’s not possible, or even necessary to share all your thoughts and feelings or have frequent deep discussions about desires and dreams. However, when couples don’t talk often enough about things that are important to them, they lose the special connection that comes from having a thread of communication unique to the two of them.  

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