Sometimes it’s better to let a guy just speak for himself! So here goes:
Howard and Sarah have been in my Big Picture Partnering VIP program for nearly 4 months. Twice Howard has spontaneously offered his over-all endorsement, admitting it comes from a guy’s perspective!
The first time he was comparing the Big Picture program to another he and Sarah had experienced years back:
A few weeks ago I shared Mary and Tom’s Success Story. If you missed it, check out their their progress during the last 18 months here…
Well, here are more recent updates on their exciting progress!
I just ran into Mary while waiting at a coffee shop the other morning. After warm greetings and catching up, she informed me that she and Tom were taking off in a week for a “Re-Honeymoon!” On their honeymoon 30-some years ago they had spent time at a lovely cabin 6 hours north, hiking, biking and enjoying their mutual love of nature.
These four tips are questions to ask yourself about some obvious and subtle obstacles that may be in the way of you fully experiencing your passion and focusing on reaching for your dreams, both large and small. I recommend a notebook or journal to quickly jot down anything that comes to mind as you respond to each one. Then go back later and contemplate what you might do to change any of these limitations.
You know I love to share my VIP couple’s successes!
Well, checking in for their third (only their THIRD mind you!) Big Picture Partnering™ training module this week, Richard noted the many changes in his relationship with Carrie. Just a few months ago they were on the verge of divorce. Listen to what he says now:
“There’s a new atmosphere in our home. It’s different and positive and really, really, really nice. Carrie is being so much gentler and I feel more connected to her. There’s a lot more spontaneous affection and we’ve been practicing Regular Talking, Taking Turns Listening.
“If we had not taken Dr. Jan’s Big Picture Partnering VIP program, we would not be where we are (and who we are!) today. Here we are years ago when were participated in a 6 month Big Picture Workshop with other couples, all who are doing well, too.
“We never experience our marriage as a compromise or sacrifice.”
Have you read Tom and Mary’s relationship turnaround story? Margaret and Jim feel confident in breaking old patterns. Both couple’s are proud of the legacy they are passing on to their grown children and grandchildren.
You can have this success too!
For those of you who are curious, the VIP BIG PICTURE PARTNERING™ Couples Program™ is an investment in learning how to build a rock-solid foundation on which you can create and customize the relationship of your dreams—the dreams that brought you together in the first place.
I know you’ve noticed how life sometimes throws us a curve ball or you’re caught in a series of unexpected events. No matter if the events are positive or negative, they can still throw you off balance or off your game. Holding onto your courage, remaining flexible and staying focused on your vision is imperative during these times. That’s why I wanted to share my thoughts—How Do You Rank Yourself: Are You Stuck In Half-A-Life Or Reaching For Pure Gold? —To help you stay focused during this times of shifts and change.
How Do You Rank Yourself: Are You Stuck In Half-A-Life Or Reaching For Pure Gold?
There’s a phenomena I’m calling out. Before I explain, let me start by asking you a simple question:
On a scale from 0 – 100% quickly pick the number, the percentage that represents how much you are living your Big Full Life—right now. (0% is “I’m not living my Big Full Life Vision at all” and 100% is “ Jan, I’m living my Big Full Life Vision FULL OUT and loving it!)
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So, since we’re all experiencing it – let’s talk about change shall we?
I’ve written a number of blog posts recently on the topic of establishing your word or your INTENTION for 2011. Actually, many people are talking about setting Intentions—especially as they move toward establishing personal and professional goals for 2011. It’s becoming the featured word to imply an over-arching focus for whatever you choose to do or pursue. Like a guiding light or a highlight on your personal journey—to keep you on the path, from getting lost or detouring, going too far astray.
Years ago I read a fascinating book about the invention of the mirror and how it impacted our sense of self identity in Western culture—and not always in a positive way! (My attempts at finding this book recently have failed, so I imagine it is long out of print, sadly to say.) The dilemma that our reflection in the mirror poses is that it so often takes us outside of our self. It raises comparison and self-scrutiny in ways that take us away from our deeper self. That in turn takes us away from connecting deeply with others or another.
So, this article is to help redirect your focus. If you haven’t already taken a look at little Jessica singing affirmations of herself and her life in front of her bathroom mirror, please take a look.This little girl is ferociously in love with herself and her life and everything in it! Her mom and dad have taught her well and affirmed her. She’s also learned to affirm herself. So often as adults we have forgotten or fallen out of touch with self-affirmation. What a lucky little girl! Imagine the confident, abundant woman she’ll grow up to be if this positive sense of herself continues to be supported inside and out.
Mirrors, shiny glass windows, pools of water are all ways we are reflected or mirrored back to ourselves. We are also mirrored in the eyes of another. And we mirror others in how we look at them, talk to them and respond to them.
We are mirrors, reflections for one another. You know how it is when you speak with or listen to your children or smile at a baby or say hello to a child at the grocery store? Children who’ve been attended to will look you deeply in the eyes—looking, taking you in, listening, sensing your smile, your tone, your attention. You talking to them or smiling is reflecting back to them: “I SEE you. YOU exist. YOU are important!”
As adults we act as though we need this less—but actually we still need to be deeply attended to feel good about ourselves. This is not superficial attention, but the attending that comes with being deeply SEEN by another—those closest to us, people we work with, our closest circle of friends. This makes us feel loved and cared about. being seen at various stages of our lives helps us to try new things, to develop certain skills or even to go into a certain profession.
So take a look at Jessica singing to herself in the mirror, loving herself and her life, overflowing with abundance, and then try some of the Nine Ways To Say I Love You to yourself and those around you!
Stand in front of your mirror and BE LIKE JESSICA. Smile and tell your self “I love you. I’m going to take care of you, protect you, love you, stand up for you, back you up – no matter what!” “I love my life!” Then name everything about your life that you love or could love if you let yourself appreciate everything and everyone you have that supports you.
Sit quietly and reflect back over your life—past and present. Think about all the people who mirrored you and caused you to see aspects of yourself that contribute to the person you are today. Make 2 lists: One of all the people in your past from birth on; and another of all the people in your present life who reflect back the best in you—the people who love and support you no matter what.