When couples have troubles it’s easy to fall into a pattern of blaming one another and finger pointing. Each of you has the unconscious expectation that “If he’d only change how he talks (or doesn’t talk) to me,” “If he’d plan for retirement or balance the checkbook on time,” “If she’d just get dinner on the table or keep the kids quiet,” “If he’d accept my parents visiting every other weekend,” and so on, your relationship would be fine.

While there may be some element of truth in what you say when you’re upset and approach it this way you are:

This week the Video Ezine Assignment is focused on conscious, committed couples.

I think of you couples as “business partners” or “entrepreneurial couples” whether one of you works in the home, or even if one or both of you work in a corporation. Managing a relationship, a family, running a household and going to work—inside or outside the home—is a massive challenge. It’s like running a business!

Just like a well-run corporation or a business has a culture, mission and philosophy, a well-run household is headed by you two, as “business” partners who partner for the sake of the family.

One of the greatest requests couples have is to help them eliminate conflict. Especially those that go unresolved.

Here’s an important fact. Research shows that the number of disagreements, differences or fights a couple experiences does not determine the longevity of a relationship. Whew!

When you don’t have the tools to communicate about your conflicts, they often get pushed under the rug. Then, chances are, you trip over them again and again.

It’s hard to feel successful and to have a balanced life when your most important relationship is out of balance.